The one thing constant in life is change. Inevitably, life circumstances are continually in flux and changes that take place within the body on a daily basis are evidence of the shifting nature within. The universal cycle of birth and death epitomizes change and as we witness nature, whether it's watching a seed sprout into a plant or observing the tide recede; change is there.
Although some of us relish the adventure of new situations, and can see the positive side of change many of us equate change with anxiety, fear and stress. Why, for so many, is change a source of stress? Because it means entering in the unknown and many of us would rather gravitate towards what is comfortable and secure. Yet if change is inevitable, it is in our best interest to be prepared when the unexpected arises.
When confronted with an unexpected circumstance we can either resist or learn to go with the flow. Often these two attitudes are modeled from the adults that we grew up with. How did our parents, caretakers and role models handle change? With awareness and practice we can learn to cope with change regardless of what occurred in the past. This often takes time and a willingness to look at our patterns and motivation to, yes, change them.
If resistance breeds fear then flexibilty in the face of change breeds ease and peace of mind. If this is the case, it is clearly in our best interest to remain as flexible as possible. Keep in mind that change comes in countless different forms and every situation is unique. These following tips, some of them adapted from Dr. Bruce Gordon who has an organization titled "The Power to Change," will help you cope successfully to the many circumstances of change.
6 Principles for Dealing with Change
1. Make a Pros and Cons List and Then Take Action: When facing a tough decision or a difficult choice in the face of change, take time to reflect by making a list that weighs the pros and cons of each side. When the choice is made, don't look back.
2. Acknowledge Your Fears and Then Let Go: It's common and natural to be fearful. Learn to unobjectively observe your fear and then let it go as you realize that most of your fears are often unfounded.
3. Remain Positive and Be Optimistic: To cope with the uncertainty of life, focus on the positive. By remaining optimistic, we are better equipped to handle whatever lies ahead of us.
4. Realize That You are in Charge: Ultimately it is up to you to make the decision that works best for you. By taking control, you are the one who wins in the end.
5. Take Stock of Your Resources and Reach Out for Support: Call on other people in your life that can help you through the adjustment and remember you are not alone.
6. Practice Self Care: Make choices that benefit your well-being. Eat healthful food, make time for exercise and get adequate sleep. Practicing self care will lead to a clear mind which will help ensure success in times of uncertainty.